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Another writing prompt!

Friday, September 14, 2012
Do you think you begin more sentences with "I" or "you?"

Hmm. I think probably I. I feel like it'd be pretty weird to start a lot of sentences with "you". I'm not sure, other than compliments, what sentences should be started with "you". Do I think this because I had so much therapy in the 90's? Is "I-language" a 90's thing?

I like to say "we" most of all. It is a really good trick I learned when freelancing. If you say something like "Yeah we can get you this information for sure", then it sounds like you've got a giant team ready to spring into action. In real life, I was probably wearing raccoon pyjamas and eating Nutella with a spoon.

Anyway, am I way off on this? Does it make me a super self-involved person that I don't start more sentence with "you'?

I think a better question would be "In a conversation, do you ask more questions or answer more questions". One think I have found while going on OkCupid dates is that guys who identify as straight are the least likely to ask me questions about myself. Khela from The Blow tweeted something recently that I just tried to find like "Did you ever notice men never ask any questions in a conversation? Try it, it gives you so much power".


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Sep. 14th, 2012 11:24 pm (UTC)
One of the things I noticed when I hung out with Mike L. last summer, when we met ON MY BIRTHDAY for a coffee (and then a beer; we are US after all) was that although he and I hadn't had a real-life conversation in a LOOOONNNNGGG time, he somehow did not ask me ONE question about ME while we were together that day. NOT ONE, that I can remember. I was so saddened by that when I realized it, and have tried to justify it to myself a few times since then (I was asking HIM a lot of questions, maybe he was feeling uncomfortable, ECT ECT ECT) but really, I was going through SO MUCH with my dad and everything, and there is no good reason for him not to have asked SO HEY HOW ARE YOU DOING WITH EVERYTHING?

But ah well. I guess it kind of reminds me why we stopped...evolving, you know? Or not, I don't know.

As for the rest of it, I feel so uncomfortable talking about myself, it is ridiculous. I told my therapist the other day that it feels very indulgent to sit with her and just talk about ME for an hour (this was after she told me to stop worrying about HER, that this was the one relationship where I am completely off the hook regarding how the other person feels, which was WHOA.) I can tell stories about things, but when it comes to real ME stuff, feelings and whatnot, I find that I can deflect that shit like a pro. (This is probably one of the big reasons why I find being in a group of three or more WAY more comfortable than being one-on-one with someone, no matter how much I love them! It is hard to deflect deep questions when there are only two of you. See also: THE TELEPHONE.)

Anyways, I didn't mean to hijack your writnig prompt! It just made me think. And write. :)

edited to remove his full name, because of how I am paranoid. :)

Edited at 2012-09-14 11:25 pm (UTC)
Sep. 15th, 2012 12:49 am (UTC)
I remember an exercise in Sunday school about avoiding sentences beginning with "I" so um... keep it up!
Sep. 15th, 2012 07:36 am (UTC)
i *love* learning about other people and savour their stories... and yet it seems as though i'm always talking about myself? need to work on that, apparently!
Sep. 15th, 2012 01:20 pm (UTC)
I start with I all the time for a reason I really hate: I start almost everything I want to say with "I think..." as if to say, "I know you might disagree, I'm not sure, please don't argue with me, but do consider that I'm right? IF YOU WANT!" I hate arguing, I HATE arguing, so much that I even do this when I say indisputable facts like, "Is that elevator going up?" "No, I think it's empty!" like I didn't just get out of it and yes it's empty unless Spiderman is hiding on the ceiling.

So this was interesting because I think there really is a telling impact from the words you choose to frame what you say! It reveals something. I wish habits were easier to break, though. Or the ways of thinking.
Sep. 15th, 2012 02:47 pm (UTC)
"I don't like to start verses with I, y'know, but, um
ITunes, eye-patch
I'm in the same boat where the pirates be
Tell 'em I'm down with that pirate steed
They don't buy it, I say don't buy it--pirate me..."
Sep. 15th, 2012 06:07 pm (UTC)
Huh. I have become frustrated with some long-time friends of mine lately (females, all) who've pretty much just stopped caring about conversation on chat. I mean, they initiate conversation with me, I ask them about their lives, and then... it stalls. Nothing comes back at me, all I get is the initial "hey" or "hello". And now they wonder why I never initiate conversations with them.
Sep. 17th, 2012 04:09 pm (UTC)
Sep. 17th, 2012 02:15 am (UTC)
WE were in pjs and eating nutella with a spoon.
I will not take zir this information, however.
You could get me some more nutella. (We are out ;))
Sep. 19th, 2012 03:03 am (UTC)
"In real life, I was probably wearing raccoon pyjamas and eating Nutella with a spoon." BEST.

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