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Will vs. counterwill

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From Scattered Minds:

"ADD children can hardly be said to have a will at all, if a "will" is a capacity which enables a person to know what he wants and to hold to that goal regardless of setbacks, difficulties, or distracting impulses.

"But my child is strong-willed," many parents insist. "When he decides that he wants something he just keeps at it until I cannot say no, or until I get very angry". What is really being described here is not will, but a rigid, obsessive clinging to this or that desire. An obsession may resemble will in its persistence, but has nothing in common with it. Its power comes from the unconscious and it rules the individual, whereas a person with true will is in command of his intentions.

The child’s oppositionality is not an expression of will. What it denotes is the absence of will which only allows a person to react, but not to act from a free and conscious process of decision making.

In the ADD child the underdeveloped circuitry of self-regulation reinforces the counterwill reaction. Because the child with attention deficit disorder is unable to disengage impulse from action, his automatic negative responses are expressed immediately and dramatically, in ways the adult world usually interprets simply as deliberate rudeness.

Further magnifying the brazen outbursts of oppositionality is another feature of underdevelopment, the one-dimensionality of the ADD child’s emotional processing. In a manner characteristic of infants and toddlers, children with attention deficit disorder are unable to hold in their minds simultaneously two different images of themselves or of others. For the preverbal child the "me" is either happy or miserably upset. Mommy is either good or bad.
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I re-read every chapter of this book at least once before moving on to the next. I have it as an audiobook and an ebook for whoever would like to read it.

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namedaftertowns
Feb. 18th, 2013 10:53 pm (UTC)
I'd be interested in reading it.
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:11 pm (UTC)
Here's a link to the dropbox folder where I've put the ebook in two different formats (.epub and .mobi), as well as a .zip file of the audiobook. (I bought them both, and don't feel guilty about sharing them with a handful of people.)
namedaftertowns
Feb. 19th, 2013 05:57 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Audra! I'm grabbing it right now.
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 07:58 pm (UTC)
Let me know if it works? I'm sort of new to Dropbox.
namedaftertowns
Feb. 19th, 2013 09:09 pm (UTC)
Got it just fine. That's one thing I don't like about Dropbox is you can't tell if it's been downloaded, or how many times. That's why I use Media Fire more often than not.
nightingayle
Feb. 19th, 2013 12:04 am (UTC)
I think I would like to read it please!
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:12 pm (UTC)
Here's a link to the dropbox folder where I've put the ebook in two different formats (.epub and .mobi), as well as a .zip file of the audiobook. (I bought them both, and don't feel guilty about sharing them with a handful of people.)
nightingayle
Feb. 20th, 2013 12:31 am (UTC)
Thank you!
crushdmb
Feb. 19th, 2013 12:06 am (UTC)
I would very much like to read this! Can I purchase it for a reasonable price? If not, the ebook would be great.

I am so ADD. Every time I read something about ADD, I get chills.
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:12 pm (UTC)
Here's a link to the dropbox folder where I've put the ebook in two different formats (.epub and .mobi), as well as a .zip file of the audiobook. (I bought them both, and don't feel guilty about sharing them with a handful of people.)
culpster
Feb. 19th, 2013 12:07 am (UTC)
This was on the shelf when I moved in and I've bumped it up my reading list accordingly. His "When the Body Says No" is also brilliant.
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:12 pm (UTC)
I'd love to hear what you think about it!
palegreenthings
Feb. 19th, 2013 01:36 am (UTC)
Hey! I'd love to grab the ebook from you. The audio is a bit challenging for me...just. I wish they had gotten someone other than the author to read it. :-)
littlegirltoast
Feb. 19th, 2013 06:07 am (UTC)
That's not the author reading it! Which I find surprising as h*ck because it sure doesn't seem to be someone selected for their riveting intonation. It sounds like a cartoon sleepy otter.
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:14 pm (UTC)
Yeah it's narrated by this guy. I think he's maybe doing a Mate impression?
littlegirltoast
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:43 pm (UTC)
oh haha I bet if I narrated audiobooks I would try to do an impression of the author, too. that's kind of smart and kind of like... probably there's usually a reason why the author didn't just read it, and maybe it is because he or she sounds like a cartoon sleepy otter!

That page offers a link to an interview with "the Colin." My word!
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:46 pm (UTC)
THE COLIN. Oh lord.

I think typically Mate's books are narrated by his son.
palegreenthings
Feb. 25th, 2013 05:46 pm (UTC)
I kind of wish he was doing a Yerba Mate impression.

Zing?
palegreenthings
Feb. 25th, 2013 05:49 pm (UTC)
I'm glad that this was not the cover of the book that introduced me to it!

audrawilliams
Feb. 25th, 2013 05:52 pm (UTC)
Haha. I am pretty sure that is a painting by Mate's wife.
palegreenthings
Feb. 25th, 2013 05:47 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I can't believe that. Weird.



...I was worried that I was being a stereotypical American getting annoyed with the pronunciation of "process." Glad to hear others find the reading commentable.
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:13 pm (UTC)
Here's a link to the dropbox folder where I've put the ebook in two different formats (.epub and .mobi), (as well as a .zip file of the audiobook, which I agree is a bit drone-y.)
palegreenthings
Feb. 22nd, 2013 04:19 pm (UTC)
Oops. Ignore my email!

I'm out of the habit o checking LJ for replies to things!

Also I love .mobi . "Don't nobody know my troubles with go-oood"
kiyouki_kitten
Feb. 19th, 2013 02:34 am (UTC)
I'd snag a copy of the audiobook!
audrawilliams
Feb. 19th, 2013 03:13 pm (UTC)
Here's a link to the dropbox folder where I've put the ebook in two different formats (.epub and .mobi), as well as a .zip file of the audiobook. (I bought them both, and don't feel guilty about sharing them with a handful of people.)
kiyouki_kitten
Feb. 20th, 2013 03:40 am (UTC)
Brilliant, thank you!
sensational
Mar. 11th, 2013 03:49 pm (UTC)
Hey, Audra, I wanted to let you know I followed one of these links and downloaded Scattered Minds. I've been reading the excerpts online, it kind of freaked me out (I am diagnosed ADHD, but this speaks to me to an unexpected degree). Let me know if this isn't okay--I'll totally delete it. But thank you for writing about all of this--it's really great to see someone so thoughtful work through some of it.
audrawilliams
Mar. 12th, 2013 11:37 pm (UTC)
Oh of course! Let me know if you feel like talking about it at all! This book is basically my new favourite topic.
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